As we transition from summer to fall, we start to see leaves falling from the trees just likesnakes shedding their old skin. Trees end up bare, but we know they will grow back leaves when spring starts peeking in again. What a great role model they are! Of course they have different features from humans, but couldn’t we simply follow the example and look inside ourselves to find leaves that no longer serve us and start releasing them? Trusting also the fact that spring will come for us, too.
Fall is a time to direct our attention inwards to a much needed self-examination, so we can notice old habits, beliefs and emotions that happen to us all the time and bring up resistance within us, rubbing in our faces we need to do something to change that. For how much longer can you keep those going on in your life in a healthy way? How much are you sacrificing to avoid change? What behavior would you be willing to change to free yourself from those old patterns?
I read this in a newsletter a couple of days ago: “[…] unresolved emotions and experiences are surfacing to ask for attention. […] Fall is the season of grief, a normal part of loss and letting go”. As painful as it may sound, I invite you to take a detailed look inside – not just for a day, but for a couple of them at least – and notice what is it that, at this point in your life, you want to work on letting go of. All of us have things to work on all the time, so keep digging and you will find it. Life also helps by arranging situations for you where you will be able to see the pattern more and more in your daily activities and interactions. That means you might end up with more than one issue you want to resolve. But like in our daily lives, we give priorities, such as taking your child to his soccer game in lieu of the big pile of laundry waiting to be done (that was kind of an easy choice, wasn’t it?). Prioritizing helps, and will assist in focusing on one thing at a time, which is what our minds can actually handle. So, choose one thing to work on and go for it.
The second stage is analyzing what you can modify to improve things, what could you commit to shifting in your life at this moment? Which actions (or modified behaviors) could create a positive change? And again, as hard as it may seem, start making small changes in your life. Einstein said, “You cannot fix a problem at the same level of consciousness at which it was created.” My way of seeing this is, if I keep doing the same things over and over, I can’t expect change to happen. A simple example would be: If every time you cook rice in a regular pan, you set the timer for one hour, it will end up burning. As many times as you continue cooking it for 60 minutes, it will again burn. This won’t change unless you make some modification like reducing cooking time or filling up the pan with gallons of water (clearly, not the best choice…). So embrace whatever small change you choose and consider doable and begin to apply it to your life. Life will start to change, and you will find even more different things you could to help yourself get rid of that old habit or belief, for instance.
If you do try this, please allow moments of grief – they will come and, if allowed to happen, they will help you release emotions that have been stuck for probably a long time. And don’t forget to love yourself in the process! Please email me or leave a comment, if you have something to share about this. Let’s embrace the fall season!