Keeping your cool pays off, I am telling you! I’ve had situations when things were about to go bad, but they turned around (“maybe just a coincidence”, you could say) after I’ve managed to keep my cool.
Now, an interesting fact is that probably seven years before that, I would not be able to do it. So, how did I get there? That is a good question. I believe it involves many realizations. One is that we are all connected, our energy will affect other people, being it positive or negative. Another important one is that you are the one who makes your day. It doesn’t matter what happens, you could be in really bad circumstances, but the way you take the situation will determine the outcome of it in terms of your happiness.
You would see a huge difference if you tried to see through the other person’s point of view during an argument. While the person is talking (or arguing), try to step back for less than a minute and put yourself in the other person’s spot. Why is he/she so upset? Is the current situation really the big cause of this commotion? Or are there other reasons behind that? Maybe the person is not having a good day, or is just taken over by emotions, such as anger, fear, sadness or even hunger! Hunger is something to think about when the kids start to bug you, try to remember the last time they ate, and what they ate, because maybe it’s gone from their system by then, and they need to refill it in order to “regain consciousness”. This sometimes happens to adults, too. But people should be more aware as they age.
Pay attention to your body when you feel emotions are becoming huge with the littlest issue that comes up. Maybe it is the way your body found to tell you it needs something, maybe rest, food, water, playful time, relaxation, or even love.